Before You Decide To Abstain From S*x Till Marriage, Think about these
Some righteous or church people on this forum wouldn't stop pushing us to abstain from s*x till marriage. They always give rea...
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Some righteous or church people on this forum wouldn't stop
pushing us to abstain from s*x till marriage. They always give reasons like: It
is a sin and the bible says so so and so. But they wouldn't tell us how to
overcome the challenges that comes with abstaining till marriage these days. I
agree that s*x after marriage is the best solution to curb STDs and unwanted
pregnancies but achieving such in the midst of some resisting factors appears
to be an uphill task.
Apart from the s*xual urges we have to deal with all through the period of abstaining we seem to forget to ask ourselves a certain question. And the question is: WHEN WILL YOU GET MARRIED AND FINALLY HAVE THAT S*X? Marriage in a country like Naija doesn't come cheap especially for the guys. The guys are expected to have a fat bank account first before thinking of marriage. Unfortunately some guys will be unlucky to get that kind of fat bank account at age 45 no matter how hard they have worked. Some ladies will clock 45 and still no signs of a husband coming close. If we must abstain from s*x till marriage are we really going to abstain till old age if conditions are not favourable to get marriage? Is there a maximum limit to wait? What happens if you will never get married due to bad luck? Does it mean you will abstain from s*x till death? If actually it was CERTAIN that everybody would be getting married at about 25 years old then it would make valid sense for people to wait till marriage.
Secondly, I think insisting on s*x till marriage can cause another issue that most of us don't even think about. Due to the excitement of having s*x for the first time and all that urge, someone who has been abstaining from s*x can easily be tempted and decide to get married unprepared just to have s*x to know how it feels. The outcome of this is that marriage crashes due to this unreadiness and kids will be brought to the world to suffer especially when the couple weren't financially ready. I have come across some folks here advising people to get married rather than have s*x before marriage. Is it better to get married because of s*x and the marriage crashes soon afterwards or is better to have PROTECTED s*x before marriage and avoid the suffering a collapsed marriage? If you feel s*x before marriage will take you to hell then it means everyone on this planet will end up in hell cos we are all sinning in different ways.
Contributions please.
Apart from the s*xual urges we have to deal with all through the period of abstaining we seem to forget to ask ourselves a certain question. And the question is: WHEN WILL YOU GET MARRIED AND FINALLY HAVE THAT S*X? Marriage in a country like Naija doesn't come cheap especially for the guys. The guys are expected to have a fat bank account first before thinking of marriage. Unfortunately some guys will be unlucky to get that kind of fat bank account at age 45 no matter how hard they have worked. Some ladies will clock 45 and still no signs of a husband coming close. If we must abstain from s*x till marriage are we really going to abstain till old age if conditions are not favourable to get marriage? Is there a maximum limit to wait? What happens if you will never get married due to bad luck? Does it mean you will abstain from s*x till death? If actually it was CERTAIN that everybody would be getting married at about 25 years old then it would make valid sense for people to wait till marriage.
Secondly, I think insisting on s*x till marriage can cause another issue that most of us don't even think about. Due to the excitement of having s*x for the first time and all that urge, someone who has been abstaining from s*x can easily be tempted and decide to get married unprepared just to have s*x to know how it feels. The outcome of this is that marriage crashes due to this unreadiness and kids will be brought to the world to suffer especially when the couple weren't financially ready. I have come across some folks here advising people to get married rather than have s*x before marriage. Is it better to get married because of s*x and the marriage crashes soon afterwards or is better to have PROTECTED s*x before marriage and avoid the suffering a collapsed marriage? If you feel s*x before marriage will take you to hell then it means everyone on this planet will end up in hell cos we are all sinning in different ways.
Contributions please.
